Rejection is a given in any relationship. There is nothing absolutely abnormal about it. However, accepting it and remaining in that state has some dire consequences. These include:
Why does heart break hurt so much? What are the symptoms of a heart break? What are the side effects of a broken heart? Broken heart is also known as heartbreak. It is a metaphor for the intense emotional and sometimes physical stress. One of the major causes of heartbreak is rejection. Rejection can occur in marriage (divorce), courtship, dating, places of work, etc. Any of these can lead to heartbreak
Effects of Heartbreak
As awful as all of that is, the ramifications of lost love don’t end there; there is so, so much more going on.
Do you know that heartbreak takes its toll on the body as well? This is the reason why rejection should be handled properly before it leads to heartbreak.
Some of the effects of heartbreak are:
- Insomnia: this is sleeplessness at night which can lead to depression and anxiety. It increases risk for other health disorder and heart diseases.
- Digestive Problem: you may loose appetite or you may eat compulsively. You may experience nausea, indigestion, severe pains, and cramps, or even stomach ulcers. When we are in emotional turmoil, our guts often absorb much of the impact. This is especially true in people who refrain from expressing their feelings but rather choose to internalize them.
- Mental Fog: the slowing down of the brain can be caused by stress, insomnia, and emotional turmoil. You may find yourself unable to focus or stay with task. In this case, try to get enough sleep and adhere to a healthy diet, as your body and heart heal, your mind will start to catch up too.
- Sensitivity to Illness: the severe stress caused by heart break has actually been proven to compromise the immune system. When the heart is vulnerable, so is the body. A weak immune system leaves you susceptible to viral infections, bacteria and hormonal irregularities
- Headache: it predisposes one to many kinds of headache — especially tension headache and migraines.
- Physical Heartache: they call it heart break for the reason that it can hurt as when you have a broken arm or leg. Chest pain is a common physical response to extreme stress. This may manifest as a sharp pain, tension, pressure or even heart palpitations. You may feel as though you are having an actual heart attack.
Once you had put the pieces back together, even though you may look intact, you were never quite the same as you’d been before the fall. We never truly recover from heart attack according to Jodi Picoult. We don’t go back to who we were before, instead, we rebuild ourselves. We can become greater, stronger and more empathetic towards our troubles.
Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world, but having your heart broken may just be the worst. It is not just a state of mind it can be physical too, you will eventually move on and get over him/her completely, but in the meantime, there are a whole lot of unexpected side effects that come with heart break.
Loss of faith in humanity: the stress of losing the most important person in your life may kill the faith you have in others.
What does the bible say about heart break?
He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.
The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all.
He keepeth all his bones: not one of them is broken.
It is important to state here that proper handling of rejection helps to reduce heart break.
REJECTION VS DEPRESSION
The word depression is associated with persistent sad, anxious or empty mood feeling of hopelessness or pessimism. Feeling of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness. Loss of interest in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, and difficulty in concentrating remembering or making decisions
How often do you check up on people, friends and acquaintances? A little hi, hello and how are you doing here and there wouldn’t take much of your time. In this time of depression and people choosing SUICIDE as an escape route from life’s unending struggles, you could be a reason that person still want to hang on.
Reach out to people, know how they are doing because once they are gone, you have no more contribution to make in their lives.
WHY PEOPLE COMMIT SUICIDE
It depends on the spiritual state of a person. We have unbelievers, fake believers, and time believers. Unbelievers are people who are not interested in godliness. They live to enjoy this present earthly life, as they unconsciously know they have no hope of eternal life. They are impatient and want to start enjoying life early. But when that doesn’t happen, they engage in sinful means to achieve their aims, and when that fails, depression sets in leading to depression and likely suicide.
The second group is fake believers. These are people who follow religion and religious organizations rather than God. They are deceived to believe lies and have false hope. Their religion promises a lot while collecting their belongings. But unlike unbelievers they see their leaders living in great luxury. Some become desperate and depressed, and may likely contemplate suicide rather than withdrawing themselves. There are also fake believers who put their trust in their religious leaders hoping to be helped and when the anticipated help fails to come, they break down and suicide becomes an option.
Again, most of these fake believers are earthly minded having been bombarded with prosperity preaching from their religious groups and are mainly serving God for just earthly benefits, rather than for heavenly purposes. But Jesus said in Mathew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”
Colossians 3:1 says,
If you then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ seated on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For you are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life shall appear, then shall ye also appear with Him in glory.
Those serving God for earthly gain are like Judas who also committed suicide. (Matt 27:3-5).
The last group, are people who might have been genuinely converted, but backslidden, and lost all confidence in God’s word, due to trials of life. They are no more watching and praying. Such can resort to self help and suicide is possible, but we must endure to the end.
One of the basic reasons people commit suicide is depression. Many people have been depressed even to the point of jumping into a moving car and God sent His word of deliverance their way.
Hear me! God can be trusted with whatever we bring to Him. That devil of depression is destroyed in Jesus name. Amen.
That you failed today doesn’t mean you will fail forever. That relationship you want to kill yourself for might be the worst you can experience in your life time.
God allows some things to slip out of our hands for better ones to come. Feeling depressed and thinking of committing suicide because someone left or rejected you isn’t wise at all. Nothing is worth taking your life. That health challenge can be fixed by God himself. If the word of God created all things, the word can correct all things. The faithfulness of God is unquestionable.
Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Also Romans 8:28 says:
All things work together for good to them that love God and have been according to His purpose.
By relying on God’s word, we can always still the storm inside. Remember, God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and self control (2Tim 1:7).
EFFECTS OF DEPRESSION
Insomnia, early morning awakening or over sleeping, appetite changes and or weight loss / weight gain.
Thought of death or suicide attempts, restlessness, irritability and persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment such as headaches, digestive disorder and chronic pain
Depression makes the sting of rejection linger. The pains of social rejection last longer for people who are depressed because their brain cells release less natural opioids, a pain and stress-reducing chemicals, a new study shows.
REJECTION SENSITIVE DYSPHORIA (RSD)
Do you often feel like you are constantly under pressure? Do you avoid trying new things due to fear of failure? Are you in a constant state of panic in your relationships? Is your anxiety unbearable? Do you often feel depressed and alone and like you are constantly rejected by friends, family or your spouse or partner? If you identify or relate to any of the above questions, then you may suffer from rejection sensitive dysphoria.
Rejection sensitive dysphoria is a relatively common yet little known emotional disorder that can cause heightened anxiety levels, depression and negatively impacts relationships.
Symptoms of RSD
Rejection—sensitive Dysphoria sufferers often endure various depressive symptoms. Some of the most important symptoms include the following:
- Experiencing a meltdown or break down
- Easily angered or generally short tempered
- Loss of self-esteem
- Increased or extreme anxiety
- Suicidal thoughts
- Loss sight of desires or goals
- Avoiding social relationships
- Struggling with relationships
- Developing eating disorders
- Social withdrawal and detachment.
THE ROLE OF PRAYER IN HANDLING REJECTION
We live in a broken world where rejection even from fellow Christians is prevalent. But there is good news as we wait in expectation for God’s ultimate redemption that is Jesus. Jesus brought with him love that remains constant.
When you feel rejected go back to God in prayer and he will build you up.
The emotions that feel so intense today will ease up overtime as long as we let them. We just have to watch how we think and talk about this rejection. If we give it the power to define us, it will haunt us long-term, but if we only allow it enough power to refine us, the hurt will give way to healing.
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